BEING THE LUSCIOUS LEADER OF YOUR LOVE LIFE
DELICIOUS WE LOVE TIPS AND LIFE HACKS!
Delicious We Relationship Tip #1
Your relationship is in creation mode long before your person shows up. Every time I knew something else was possible, I was creating the relationship I have today. Every time I went on a date and got an awareness of what works for me I was creating the relationship I have today. A useful tool for this is to acknowledge and claim these things for yourself with a, “yes, I’ll have that.” And be clear on what doesn’t work for you.
Luscious Leadership Life Hack #1
Whether you're creating a relationship, a business, a team or a project, IT is in creation mode before it shows up, comes to fruition or milestones are met. The more deeply present you choose to be in any given moment, the more you can use your strategic awareness to identify what's working, what isn't, what choices you can make to create towards (and with greater ease) the relationship, a business, a team or a project.
Delicious We Relationship Tip #2
Treat your relationship as a threesome! The following questions will allow you to honor your partner, you, and the relationship. What does my partner require and desire of me today? What do I require and desire of me in this relationship today? What does the relationship require and desire today? Playing with these awarenesses can add so much more ease in creating, enjoying and sparking inspired actions in your relationship.
Luscious Leadership Life Hack #2
With your business, team and projects use these questions to honor and include them as the separate entities of creation that they are.
What does my _____________________ require and desire of me today?
What do I require and desire of me with ___________________________ today?
Delicious We Relationship Tip #3
Be tenacious with your awareness. My choice to listen to that one whisper of awareness and being the initiator of our (welcome home) hugs has become one of our relationship’s greatest tools of loving kindness and generative space. My tenacity and sometimes OCD belligerence in demanding, while not always graceful has always created more. And what I secretly love most about this? If I’m being prissy or pissy, Rob’s demand of our hug, shifts the space and is an extremely tangible acknowledgement of the influence for greater I am and actionable gratitude he is for his own knowing.
Luscious Leadership Life Hack #3
What do you know about you, your team, your business, your body that if you would tenaciously choose the inspired action would contribute to creating what you know is possible and would invite others to be a contribution.
Delicious We Relationship Tip #4
Gratitude and loving actions create the yum! Gratitude inherently generates more expansion and judgment (contraction) cannot exist in the space of gratitude. Here are some ‘gratitude kickstarters’: What are three things you’re grateful for about your partner? What are three things you’re grateful about your relationship? What are three things you are grateful for about you in your relationship? I’ve noticed that choosing this when I’m challenged (aka in judgment) begins to dissipate any contraction that was creating the irritation or aggravation.
Luscious Leadership Life Hack #4
Gratitude kickstarters for you, your team, your business, your body: What are three things you are grateful for about you? What are three things you are grateful for about your team? What are three things you are grateful for about your business/company? What are three things you are grateful for about your body? Set a reminder on your phone / calendar to kickstart your gratitude throughout the day and begin to notice the positive changes it creates in your life.
Delicious We Relationship Tip #5
You can only change You! When something is bothering you, the faster you stop hemming and hawing, complaining and blaming or pointing the finger at the other person and ask what is required or available for you to change, the faster you can move beyond the situation. Note to self and a very important thing to get: when something is up it may only be up for you. Please do not expect or project that the other person thinks, feels or perceives that anything is wrong or going sideways.
Luscious Leadership Life Hack #5
When something is going on with your team, co-workers, boss, etc... instead of demanding someone else changes or expecting them to, play with the questions of consciousness- 'what point of view is required of me to change in order to have more ease here?' or 'what's right about this situation or person that I'm not getting?'
Delicious We Relationship Tip #6
Launch and land your day with your partner lusciously. What is it for you and your partner that would add to a joyful, easeful day? Would you be willing to lead your relationship into the creation of a new or improved framework of loving actions?
Luscious Leadership Life Hack #6
With your team at work, or just for you personally, what activities and actions can contribute to launching and landing your day with ease, joy and the possibility? Invite your team to participate in identifying the framework to cerate the culture you desire.
Delicious We Relationship Tip #7
Know the signs of checking out and what will help your partner to check back in. What could you and your partner create with this kind of conversation?
Luscious Leadership Life Hack #7
Invest in becoming aware of your team, the energies of engagement and the signs of dis-engaging / checking out and invest in the conversations to talk openly about this as well as identifying activities and actions to generate re-engagement. Be willing to be more deeply present with your team and be willing to use your strategic awareness and kindness to keep the generative energies of creation and productivity flowing.
Delicious We Relationship Tip #8
Have your ‘Go To Person’ when you really do need a bitch session (someone that isn’t your partner)! Who’s got your back and your relationship’s back? Who can you trust, in confidence, that will be the space of no judgment for you to let off steam? And, be there for you with strong talk; ready to ask a question, clear a limiting belief and be the energy of the gift your relationship is for you?
Luscious Leadership Life Hack #8
Have your 'Go To Person' or confidante' regarding team / work issues, someone who has your back, align and agree or react but rather be a space of no judgment and generative questions to provide you with the space to vent and get to your own awareness and knowing.
Delicious We Relationship Tip #9
Your choice to change something for yourself is a double dose of empowerment and inspiration. Every time I choose to change something that I’ve decided is bothering me about the relationship, I feel empowered in the creative control of my entire life and I have more gratitude and enjoyment of my relationship. Subsequently, the space that opens up leaves me in awe of the invitation this creates for more gratitude, kindness, and choosing of greater from my partner.
Luscious Leadership Life Hack #9
What inspiration and empowerment can you be to everyone in your sphere of influence when choosing greater for yourself in any situation or area of your life? What creative control can you maximize for yourself in your work and career and what space of gratitude and possibilities can this open up?
Delicious We Relationship Tip #10
Play to your strengths. Have you ever noticed that your creative energy when not utilized consciously can create a lot of crap? Are you willing to be so aware of your relationship that you sense when your beautiful, boastful, dynamically powerful partnership energies are starting to go sideways? Are you willing to call each other on it and to pull the plug on your creative energies going rogue? One way to do this is to use the Access tool of destroying and uncreating your relationship every day. You can do this simply by being present and asking to ‘destroy and uncreate everything your relationship was yesterday.’ This allows you to energetically wipe the slate clean each day, pulling your energies out of anything dense, putting them into generative creation and being open to having something greater exist. Follow this up by asking, “what energy, space and consciousness can me and my body be to be 50-50 with my partner in totality?”
Luscious Leadership Life Hack #10
With your team at work, your colleagues, boss, friends and family...pull the energy out of creating crap or repetitive themes by being present and asking to ‘destroy and uncreate everything your relationship or ____________ was yesterday.’ This allows you to energetically wipe the slate clean each day, pulling your energies out of anything dense, putting them into generative creation and being open to having something greater exist. Follow this up by asking, “what energy, space and consciousness can me and my body be to be 50-50 with _____________ (my team, family, work) in totality?”
Thank you for checking out the 'Delicious We- Being the Luscious Leader of Your Love Life' chapter in the Relationships Done Easy book. My desire is that you enjoyed reading the chapter and learned some new luscious leadership tips and tools to not only create a delicious relationship but also to create something greater in every area of your life and living!
I would love to hear how the tools and leadership hacks worked for you! Share on social media or email me at firstname.lastname@example.org.
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Lead Lusciously, Danna